Saturday, January 23, 2010

Relationship Tip No. 1 - Listening for Understanding

By: Kevin L. Nichols

The art of listening is one of the most paradoxical problems in relationships. It is one of the easiest things to do (we all have ears and can pay attention when we choose to), yet if asked to summarize the conceptual understanding of what the speaker said, the listener either cannot or has no concept of what he/she just heard. In the beginning of relationships we all "hear" and listen very carefully with the goal of understanding. As time goes on and we get too relaxed and comfortable, we listen less, until we "hear" but do not listen at all. That is how our back door gets left open to the next person who is willing to make the time and effort to listen. Keep your back door closed tight. Lend an ear with the goal of understanding.

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